Did you know that May is Mental Health Awareness Month? Planning a wedding can be filled with mixed emotions; excitement and happiness can quickly turn to stress, anxiety and even fear. There’s so much expectation and so many people to please, not to mention the fact that you’re spending a huge amount of money on just one day.
It’s so much more than just one day.
Cherish the journey.
The metaphor of planning a wedding as a journey may help you to see your wedding as more than just one day. Because it is so much more than just one day. Planning your wedding takes time. Whether it’s hours, days, weeks, months or even years, you’re going to need to find a way to enjoy the process. I know, I know. Easy for me to say. I do this all the time. I see this all the time. True. But the more experience I have, the more I have come to recognize that the planning process is a journey. What begins as focusing on a destination becomes a path of discovery and can be an opportunity to have fun. Cherish the journey.
There are often bumps in the road. You may come to a fork, debating between safe and the road less traveled. You may even make a u-turn or choose to get off the road altogether and fly. No two journeys are the same (thank goodness).
As with any journey, who you travel with can be more important than your destination.
The company you keep includes more than your significant other. Which family member and friends will you choose to include in your planning process? Which vendors will you hire? These people will be your companions on your journey so choose wisely.
I wouldn’t presume to tell you who to marry or how to choose them. And unlike JLo in the wedding planner, I cannot and would not want to predict who will divorce and when. I can share my experiences and observations. Those couples who listen to each other, consider each others feelings and take the time to reach a compromise have a happier journey. How you treat each other during the journey is a direct reflection of how you will treat each other throughout your married life.
“Don’t let the opinions of others drown out your own inner voice” – Steve Jobs
The internet can be a blessing and a curse. It’s the most amazing resource for finding absolutely anything, yet the overabundance of information and choices can be daunting. This is especially true in the world of weddings. If you are second guessing and having trouble making decisions, step away from the Pinterest Board.
“Never compare your journey with someone else’s. Your journey is your journey, not a competition.”
The long and the short of it are the same; keep it in perspective. What feels like the most important day of your life right now will soon be a distant memory, and new important days will take its place; the birth of children, other celebrations that mark important occasions.
“It’s good to have an end to journey toward, but it is the journey that matters in the end.” – Ursula le Guin